Thursday, April 11, 2013

A Homecoming

HE'S BACK IN THE USA!!!!!
Barry and I have known for about 6 weeks the troop movement timeline but could only share those dates in a very general way.

For the past several weeks I have been on pins and needles....counting the days until Keefe comes home.  On Sunday he completed the first leg of his journey.  The company landed in Kyrgyzstan where I'm sure one of the first things they all did was raise a glass of brew.  Seven months is a long time for a Marine to go without a beer or cocktail. ;)

Keefe arrived back in the USA TODAY!!!.  He will be home on leave from April 20 - May 5.  Unfortunately, I will not be home when he arrives on April 20. ;( Bummer!!!   However I will get to hug and kiss his sweet face on April 21 when I return from a trip planned way before we knew the return dates.    It is deary outside today but as you can imagine my heart is filled with sunshine and joy. :) Thanks to all of you for your prayers and support these past months.  SEMPER FI!!!

 











A Homecoming Celebration is planned for Saturday, April 27 at the Murtaugh Chateau.  Time 4 - 8 pm. If you are in the area please join us.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Sacrifice, Service, Commitment




It's been a rough month for the USMC and Naval Academy Alumni.   On March 11, 2013, a Navy Prowler went down off the Washington Coast near Whidbey Island.  The pilot was LtJG Valarie Cappelaere Delaney '09, (classmate of Keefe), LtJG William Brown McIlvaine '10, (fellow Glee Club member and friend) and Lt Commander Alan A. Patterson also a Naval Academy grad.
A few days later there was a tragic explosion at the Hawthorne Depot Training Center in Nevada killing 7 Marines. Then just a few days after the explosion, 3 Marines died in a tragic shooting on the USMC Base in Quantico, Va.

On Sunday the holiest week of the liturgical year began with the celebration of Palm Sunday.  The week leads into the great feast of the Triduum.  The Triduum begins with Holy Thursday, followed by Good Friday,  then Holy Saturday/Easter Vigil and ending with Easter Sunday.  It is my favorite time of year in the church's life. As a cantor I usually get assigned to minister to the Holy Thursday service.  It is a privilege and honor to be the leader of sung prayer  at Sunday worship but cantoring during the Triduum is a true high point for me.

The gospel verse for Holy Thursday  is sung over and over each year.  It has a very strong positive yet scary effect on me.  Especially when I think about the way I lead my life as a professed Christian.   "There is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend".  It is challenging yet that is what Christ did for us.




Over 2000 years ago a man was killed for what he believed and preached. 

The Navy and Marine personnel that died this past month were also individuals who were committed to service and were willing to sacrifice their lives if needed.

In both of these situations all the individuals were  committed to the values they believed in and lived by. Each individual had a commitment to service and willing to sacrifice their own life in service to others.

In fact these two values  have helped me accept and support my son in his choice to serve in the military.  Commitment to service may sound pretty simple. On the other hand sacrifice is a scary proposition.  When I think about the commitment that Keefe has made I am in awe.

Now mind you I am not saying that war and fighting are ok.  Christ ask us to seek peace in the world not war.    A peace that can be achieved through loving our neighbor and enemies.  So let us go forward this week into Easter joy, reflecting upon our own personal commitment to our faith and how we live that faith in everyday life.  Do we truly love our neighbors as ourselves? Are we willing to lay down our life for a friend?

Have a blest and holy Triduum and Easter!!

I am happy to report that Keefe will be home soon very soon!! Keep those prayers coming for a safe journey.

Semper Fi!








Tuesday, February 26, 2013

A February Christmas Surprise and Life in a Strange Land



A week ago it was  15 degrees cold and I had to go downtown for a meeting.  I got on the train and after getting half way downtown got an email that the meeting was cancelled.  However the trip was not in vain as I had a small errand to take care of BUT it could have waited.   I did what I needed to do then headed back to the train station for the 1:30 pm train and I MISS IT!!!! ARRGH! So I waited for the 2:30 pm and arrive back in Barrington around 3:45 pm  and get home at 4 pm. 


When I arrived home there was a box on the front porch. 


One of those PRICELESS moments has taken place.  


A BOX FROM AFGHANISTAN...WOOHOO!!!!  

Now mind you I'm not sure this is a belated gift for us or a souvenir for Keefe Murtaugh.  None the less it brightened my day!  Thank you Lt. Murtaugh!!!!!  You are the best!!! Nothing like Christmas in February and the Lenten Season. I must have screwed up his liturgical sensibilities. ;) BUT WE HAVE A POP UP USMC CHRISTMAS TREE! Oh yeah it has lights as well!! LOL!!!! 

Since the package arrived, I've chatted with Keefe very briefly on Facebook. It turns out this was his Christmas tree for the holidays.   Still does not take the shine away from my day last week. :)

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Today the Chicago area is expecting a winter mix of rain, ice and snow.  The forecast sounds familiar to my ears.  Oh yeah, last Tuesday 15 degrees, rain, ice and snow.  Well at least it will be in the 30's today.  

Although there is not  much sun today, my heart is shining brightly.  I am counting the days till Keefe and 2/7 are safely back in the USA.  It will be the longest 6-8 weeks of my life.  



On the other hand I am bothered by what is being left behind.  I have many, many  questions.  I realize there are no easy answers but I still have questions. Did over 10 years of war and occupation really help? Couldn't we have gotten Bin Laden without sacrificing over a 1,000 of the young men and women who served in the multinational forces?  Have we in Western Society not learned the lesson that you can't impose your culture and way of life on people?   Why can't we accept that people live differently and that's not all bad?  It's what makes this world such a wonderful creation. Questions! Questions! ????????

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After reading articles like the one below about life in Helmand Province, I begin to understand my son's frustration and shake my head even more at the time and effort that has been spent in Afghanistan. 


Afghan police accused of corruption and child abuse
Ben AndersonBen Anderson witnessed corruption and criminality among the Afghan police. BBC Panorama reporter Ben Anderson spent five weeks with US Marines working to advise Afghan security forces in Helmand province. While he was there, he witnessed corruption and criminality among the Afghan police force.

Most police forces investigate crimes like corruption, kidnapping, drug use, murder and child abuse. But in Sangin - the most violent district in Afghanistan - these are crimes that some of the police commit.

Politicians insist the handover to the Afghan security forces is going smoothly and that they will be able to maintain security as the allied forces withdraw.

On a recent visit to Helmand, UK Defence Secretary Philip Hammond said the "transition is proceeding very well - it is on track. "The Afghans are developing capabilities faster than we expected and we have every reason to believe that they will be able to maintain security as the Isaf forces draw down," he added.

The outgoing commander of Nato forces, Gen John Allen, is even more ebullient: "Afghan forces are defending Afghan people and enabling the government of this country to serve its citizens. This is victory. This is what winning looks like, and we should not shrink from using these words."

The reality in Sangin is very different.

I spent five weeks embedded with US Marines, who took over the region from British troops in 2010. I hoped to gain a true sense of what progress has been made in readying the Afghan forces to secure the area. During my time in Sangin, just two teams of 18 US Marines went out every few days to advise the Afghan army and police across the district. The remaining American forces have withdrawn to the main forward operating base, which they rarely leave. Because of the growing risk of deadly insider - or "green on blue" - attacks, the Americans live completely apart from their Afghan counterparts. Whenever the Americans enter the Afghan side of the base, they have their weapons cocked, ready to fire. When they did go out, what the marines saw was far from encouraging. At one checkpoint, the Afghan police were openly smoking marijuana. Two other police officers, assigned to fill sandbags to fortify a watchtower, were high on something stronger - probably opium or heroin. When one of the police commanders was shot, three weeks after I left, the American medics who saved him found a bag of heroin in his pocket.

USMC Major Bill Steuber is leading the police advisory team, and spends much of his time at headquarters with the police leadership. He said corruption is rampant, and even compared it to the American television show The Sopranos.
"It's vast," he said, "everything from skimming ammunition off their supplies to skimming fuel off their shipments. "There's false imprisonment - they'll take people during an engagement, and they'll just wrap everyone up, then they'll wait for the families to come in and pay them money to be able to release them." He said the police sometimes sell ammunition and weapons in the local bazaar, including rocket-propelled grenades. So weapons paid for by the allied forces could well be ending up in the hands of the Taliban. In one instance, a patrol base was deemed unsafe to stay in because the Afghan police were selling off the security walls as scrap metal. Major Steuber said the foreign military working here have to accept the limitations on what they can hope to achieve. He said that because the Afghan police were unable to sustain themselves, sometimes corruption was the only way they could function. "If we were to go in and shut down all of their schemes, all of their corruption schemes, you would render them completely ineffective," he said.

But there are issues Major Steuber said need to be tackled head-on - including the sexual abuse of young boys by local police commanders. On every police base I visited in Sangin, there were young boys: some were armed, and some looked like servants. They are known as "chai boys". Major Steuber says they are often sexually abused. The problem is widespread. While I was in Sangin, four boys were shot while trying to escape police commanders, three of them fatally. None of the commanders responsible were arrested. Sangin Deputy Police Chief Qhattab Khan admitted this abuse is taking place, and promised to take action. He told Major Steuber: "The kids themselves want to stay at the patrol bases and give their bodies at night… There is no humanity. There is no military command". Mr Khan retired before any action was taken to free the chai boys. To date they have not been released. "Try doing that day in, day out," said Major Steuber, "working with child molesters, working with people who are robbing people, murdering them. It wears on you after a while." The Afghan government says it is fighting corruption and that the police and armed forces are ready and willing to take full responsibility for the security of their country. Ministry of Interior Spokesman Sediq Sediqi, said the Afghan Government would investigate the claims of corruption and abuse, highlighted by Panorama. But from what I saw, corruption and criminality are widespread among the police in Sangin. This is exactly the kind of behaviour that led many Afghans to welcome the Taliban when they swept to power in 1996. Is this what all the fighting and bloodshed has been for?

Ben Anderson has traveled to Helmand province many times since 2007. He has written a book about his experiences there - No Worse Enemy.

Panorama: Mission Accomplished? Secrets of Helmand, BBC One, Monday, 25 February at 20:30 GMT

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Rambling Thoughts about a Homecoming

Today is February 5.  It's my brother, Tommy's 51st Birthday.  Happy Birthday Little Brother!


Saturday evening Barry and I chatted with Keefe via Skype.  He is looking a little sunburned from the high altitude and continues to complain of boredom.  However Mom likes bored. :).

This past week we received an update from Lt. Colonel Tomich about the preparations for returning home.  I've included a portion of the newsletter below.




From Lt. Col. Don Tomich, the commanding officer of 2nd Battalion, 7th Marines.
 

Dear Families and Friends of 2/7,

Our Marines and sailors have done a phenomenal job operating in this challenging and constantly changing environment. It is humbling to see how they face each day with equal determination to accomplish the mission and equally determined to take care of each other. It has been 4 months and we have seen much progress in our area of operations. Significant pressure has been relieved on our Afghan partners who make new gains every day.


We have been visited by the Helmand Provincial Governor and others including General Amos (Commandant of the Marine Corps), Lieutenant General Tyron (Deputy Commandant for Plans, Policies, and Operations), Lieutenant General Faulkner (Deputy Commandant Installations and Logistics), Major General Gurganus (Commanding General, Regional Command-Southwest), and Major General Berger (Commanding General, Task Force Leatherneck) and all had high praise for your Marines’ and sailors tenacity and professionalism in this very important mission.
 

This is an exciting time as we start to think of and make plans for the impending homecoming. Your Marines and sailors have been extremely professional and proficient and have accomplished so much since our September departure. There is still much to be accomplished before our return in just a couple of short months. I am proud to serve with each and every one of them.
Semper Fidelis!
Don Tomich
Lieutenant Colonel



Sometime in April Keefe will be home in Barrington.  It will be good to spend time with him after such a long separation. YEAH!!!


Semper Fi!

Monday, January 28, 2013

Zero Dark Thirty and Post 9/11 thoughts

Last night Barry and I went to see "Zero Dark Thirty". Wow! If you haven't seen it I highly recommend the movie. Girls' Rule. Go see the movie and you'll get why I say that.

May 1, 2011 is the day OBL was killed.   It also happens to  be Keefe's birthday.   Keefe was home on leave May 1, 2011.  While we were preparing a celebration dinner, before he went out with his friend, a breaking news announcement came across the screen that the President would be speaking within the hour.   All three of us knew instinctively that it must be something of grave importance.   I think all three of us were stunned as the President announced that OBL had been killed.  

That evening brought back a flood of memories. My memory of 9/11: 

1) Working with a group of Franciscan's holding retreat at Loyola University, who's brother Fr. Michael Judge died in the World Trade Center trying to rescue folks.
2) Helping guest at the retreat house make arrangements for a longer than expected stay due to grounded flights and no rental cars available.
3) Frantically trying to reach a nephew and his wife, praying that they were not traveling that day.
4) Touching base with my children and husband to discuss our game plan for the day.
5) Fearful of the unknown over the course of the next few days.
6) Reflecting on the uncertainty of life.

But with all of this__ the memory that is the most vivid in my mind came at the end of the day.   Liam was attending Loyola University and living on campus. His roommate's Dad worked at the Pentagon and he had finally received word that Dad was ok.  Keefe and Rory were students in their Freshman and Junior year at Loyola Academy.  Keefe had already become very serious about attending the Naval Academy and becoming a Marine Officer.    

As we gathered to eat our evening meal together, we prayed for the victims, the perpetrators, all the families affected by the day  and the nation.  Of course the conversation at the table was all about the day's events.  I remember turning to Keefe with the following question. "What are you thinking about military service after today?" I expected the answer to be not sure it's what I want to do now.  Instead I got a square look in the eye with the answer "Mom, I want to be a part of the military now more than ever".  

Not what I wanted to hear!

Jumping forward 11 years to 2012 I must say while I still don't like the fact that he has chosen to be in the military, I must say I am very proud of him! 

He has chosen a path few do: 
1) to protect and preserve something that each of us takes for granted most days.
2)  to follow his convictions with purpose and courage.  
3) to be of service to humanity.
4) to love others above himself.


 I am grateful that God chose me to be his mother!

Semper Fi!

 




Sunday, January 13, 2013

Post Christmas Travels and Tales

Currently,  I am sitting in Keefe's home in Twentynine Palms, CA where I woke up to 19F this morning.  So much for a break from the Chicago winter. ;)   


It has been a long journey to get here.  Barry, Rory and I left Barrington the 18th of December to spend Christmas in London with Liam.   We spoke with Keefe on Christmas Day.  He informed us that the deployment was more than half over.   YEAH!!!! 

Many friends and family sent him packages for the holidays and much of it was shared with his men.  Nancy's famous bump cake, cookies, fudge, beef jerky, board games, cards, DVD's, and cigars were among the treasures.  Their Christmas dinner was steak and potatoes. 


While we missed spending Christmas with Keefe, it was great Skyping with him on the 25th.  He looks good and routinely mentions that he is bored.  Mom likes bored.  Keefe not so much.  




I spoke with Keefe again this past week.  He is marking time till he returns home.  In a little over 10 weeks he will be back in the USA!!!! Double YEAH!!!!

While in London, we had a family dining out at Hawksmoor which included a toast to Keefe with a drink called Concealed Weapon and a Macallan 16.



In addition to some sightseeing, Rory aka Kory Quinn, booked 
a few London Shows. This bill was posted in the Ladies Bathroom.   
You know your kid has made it when this happens! ;)

Barry and I returned from London on December 26, while Rory stayed in London then traveled to Ireland where he went on a musical working tour of Dublin, Wicklow and Cork. Big Brother Liam joined him for part of the tour. I think this was a musical tour but maybe it was a Guinness and Jameson Tour. ;)








Barry and I washed clothes and re-packed for our journey to the Southwest.   With our dogs in tow, we headed to Fort Worth to spend New Year's Eve with Barry's mom, then off to Albuquerque for a week where I managed the 2013 NAAL Annual Meeting.  After the meeting we headed to Taos for a couple days to visit some friends who lived in Barrington about 25 years ago.  While in Taos we toured the Taos Pueblo, which is over 1,000 years old.  


Then off to Phoenix we went to visit with Barry's oldest Sean, his wife Cathy and the grandson, Eamon.
Barry and I enjoyed our short time with them.  He especially enjoyed hanging out with his 8 year old grandson, Eamon.   







We are now in Twentynine Palms, CA where it has been unusually cold for this time of the year.  Yesterday Barry and I spent the afternoon in the Colorado Desert in the southern part of Joshua Tree National Park.  This past June we spent time in the Mohave Desert section of the park.  When driving through this amazing area you are reminded of the many forces of nature and its impact on the surrounding area.   



Tomorrow we head to the Grand Canyon then on to Gunnison, CO to visit with Bob and Mary Jo Schauer.  We'll head on back to Chitown and be home soon.   

Happy New Year to one and all!!!

Semper Fi!